8 Ways to Train Your ResiliencePosted on March 25, 2020
Fall 3 times, but get up 4 times
Only by standing up do you move forward.
And that is the essence of BOUNCING BACK.
Covid-19 is making everyone feel they’re facing problems – minor or major. At home you find yourself suddenly having to manage children, work, household chores and your relationship – all inside the home and in a few square feet. Or with your colleagues or team that you now only see virtually. Perhaps you’re also concerned about your business because it has now stalled. Big and small problems to which not everyone responds the same. One person may feel dismayed and powerless, the other remains positive and forward-looking. And those feelings can change day-to-day. Where does the difference come from? The answer is RESILIENCE.
Not Always Strong, But The Power To Bounce Back
Resilience is the ability to deal with difficulties, setbacks and changes. Very relevant in these days. This does not mean that you should always be strong and never have feelings of disappointment or sadness.
Resilience means that you are able to “bounce back” after a setback. Bounce back to the original position or come back even stronger. Resilience not only helps you deal with challenges but also to grow. How is your resilience today?
8 Ways To Boost Your Resilience
Resilience is not static. It is not a question of “you have it” or “you don’t have it”. It may differ from moment to moment. Resilience is like a muscle, and you can train a muscle. The more you train, the better it gets. And the more resilient you become, the better you can deal with what’s currently going on and what’s to come. Becoming stronger, growing in your resilience, will help you now and in the short term. How do you do that? By practicing. Just like you train your muscles. You don’t do physical exercises like at the gym but rather brain workouts to train your mind. Resilience consists of 8 dimensions and you can train each dimension separately. Every day. Each individual improvement strengthens the whole.
It’s a jumble of positive emotions and negative emotions these days. A good exercise is to write down your emotions in a diary. It makes you more aware of their existence and if you need to you can distance yourself from them. You’re also able to better share them with others if you want to. That can create a sense of relief.
empathizing with others is key. Great examples of empathy are the recent public applause for healthcare workers, and 180 radio stations playing “you’ll never walk alone”. The difference here is understanding that empathy is connecting with the emotion that someone is experiencing, not the event or the circumstance. Try understanding how they may be feeling by placing yourself in their shoes for a few moments. Everyone needs to share burden at the moment.
How confident do you feel about yourself at the moment? How much confidence do you have in yourself to get through this? A good exercise is to think about something you did recently that surprised you in a positive way. Be as specific as possible: describe the situation, what you did and what effect it had. This can help give you a more well-rounded image of yourself.
Dealing with change may suit one person, much less the other. The fact that all kinds of patterns, rhythms and habits are turned upside down may upset you. Try building a new structure to your day that gives you some stability. Get up at the same time, work in the same spot in the house, have telephone/video calls at regular times. See what helps you to create anchors each day and each week.
The more you’ve already experienced, the better you’ll be able to absorb what is happening now. If you thought your life was completely controlled by you, then the current situation is likely a shock – there are many things that you cannot control or influence. Good practice here is to pinpoint what’s really important to you right now and how these things are the focus of your daily activities.
Opportunities and bright spots still exist. There are still positive things you can see in the media every day. Also chance encounters outside, maintaining “social distancing”, can bring you joy. Try doing a gratitude exercise daily. Simply ask yourself: what am I grateful for today?
New circumstances require new solutions. This applies to the daily routine: when do I connect with my colleagues, how do I schedule my children’s education, when do I call my parents? But it also applies to the longer term: how will this affect my professional future? The tip here is to set small goals: “what do I want to have done at the end of today”. That will also give you a feeling of control in all this chaos. After this has worked maybe you can try write about future scenarios: “what if…….”.
New circumstances require new behaviors. Trying new things out. You’ve never experienced this before so there’s no script to follow. Grandparents have started using an iPad to see the grandchildren. Work has online team meetings. Homeschooling requires setting aside time to prepare. Try looking at how others are handling these new ways of doing things – the art of copying.
Whatever approach you choose it will strengthen your resilience! WOOSH5 aims to help people deal with changes as successfully as possible. A change can be big and overwhelming. WOOSH5 helps you to make it smaller and more manageable. WOOSH5 wants to reach as many people as possible to help them train their resilience.
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